Joy’s Blog

Monthly Posts regarding various subjects, especially seniors, death & dying, dementia, and grief.

Agendas & Advocacy

Posted by on Sep 4, 2017 in Joy's Blog | Comments Off on Agendas & Advocacy

Every stage of life is characterized by a “crisis” or a set of tasks that are in conflict, but must be resolved to enable the individual to move forward in life.
Our elders are faced with the only developmental crisis in which it is necessary for the individual to, instead of pushing forward as required by every other crisis, look backward as well as permit a member of a younger generation facilitate the emergence of their legacy. This crisis is between control and determination of how they want to be remembered – their organic legacy. The difficulty is that determining their organic legacy requires relinquishment of control.

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Forward in the Rearview Mirror

Posted by on Jun 22, 2017 in Joy's Blog | Comments Off on Forward in the Rearview Mirror

Forward in the Rearview Mirror

We humans are not capable of looking forward as we drive AND looking in the rearview mirror at the same time? As family members and caregivers, I believe we have a similar situation.

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Who Cares?

Posted by on Apr 23, 2017 in Joy's Blog | Comments Off on Who Cares?

Who Cares?

According to the World Federation for Mental Health, “Caregiving affects us all. Regardless of culture or country, all people have been – currently are – or will need a caregiver during the course of their lifetime.” What is a caregiver?

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When You Become Your Loved One

Posted by on Mar 23, 2017 in Joy's Blog | Comments Off on When You Become Your Loved One

When You Become Your Loved One

I am talking about that moment when you become your loved one – your mother, your aunt, your father, your sister, your friend – at least legally. When does that moment occur? It occurs when a Power-of-Attorney is signed and then enacted.

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Power of Attorney is Empowering

Posted by on Feb 22, 2017 in Joy's Blog | Comments Off on Power of Attorney is Empowering

Power of Attorney is Empowering

Why should someone execute a Medical and Durable Power-of-Attorney? Isn’t that asking for something terrible to happen?

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Live, Love, and Laugh Well

Posted by on Jan 22, 2017 in Joy's Blog | Comments Off on Live, Love, and Laugh Well

Live, Love, and Laugh Well

When my mother had a stroke and developed Vascular Dementia, it was the start of a flash flood of change. Did it overcome me or did I overcome?

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